STYLE BLOGGER & FASHION STYLIST
When I initially began blogging, I was excited… excited to be doing something that brought me so much joy… Something that could elevate me in so many ways… Something that the world was beginning to respond to!
Wait, respond to? 😳
I found some amazing bloggers who served as role models and great examples to me during my transition into becoming a better blogger. I also read the comments under the some of their posts. The world was not always nice about their outfit of the day (#ootd). As a result, I became fearful of what people might find wrong with my blog, my #ootd styles and more. I wasn’t sure if I was up for the anonymous scrutiny of the internet gangsters.
That’s right, I was fearful, but there’s nothing wrong with being afraid. Anyone who claims to attempt great things without a sense of fear and trepidation is not being honest. Because even the established experience fear. The difference between a novice and an established person is not that the established person feels no fear, but that an established person won’t let fear get in the way of his or her greatness.
So I moved forward with my mission, fear and all. I did receive comments that were not so kind, but every brick thrown built me up! As a matter of fact, I was built up so much that my standing against the rough weather is what I believe brought more people to my blog! And of course with an increase of views came the desire to build and increase my brand.
No one called me by my first name, LaQuisha. I would attend natural hair events to find people calling me my blog name or doing the best they could to remember my blog name, referring to me as “Curly Girl” sometimes, LOL. Nevertheless, I was proud to be recognized by my brand.
But while attending other events, I met other brand moguls. I met women with bigger afros, better makeup, large audiences and more followers, etc. I wondered if I would ever reach the status they had attained. I found myself again, fearful and comparing my blog to their blogs. It took me at least 2 of my 5 years to realize the following:
1. Fear and failure is the fuel needed to keep growing and glowing.
Every time I became afraid or messed up with a terrible post, I would work harder on the next. I did more research. I gained and applied new knowledge because I was hungry for success. If I would have never messed up or been afraid, I would not have worked so hard to be great.
2. Comparisons cannot be made between uniqueness or greatness.
They just are what they are and will be what they will be. I couldn’t try to be the next “anyone” because I am unique. My style, heart and desire was different from all those I looked up to online. It is great to be inspired; it is a travesty to be a copycat. I am described as a classy and modest blogger because of my personal style, not because of styles that I saw online and copied. And I am comfortable with the way I dress! Find the unique within you and you will find your own greatness!
3. Running your car increases your travel opportunities.
Whatever you do, DON’T STOP! The longer you pursue your vision, the more you will see and experience. It is because I kept getting dressed (in spite of how I felt or how many likes and comments I got), I kept taking photos, I kept posting and I kept repeating this process that my brand was built. Rome, nor houses, are built in a day. I repeat, don’t stop!
Whew! This is a very transparent post! But I believe that in order to grow, honesty is key.
Be honest with yourself:
Has fear or comparison prevented you from presenting your authentic self to the world?
What do you need to stop, start and continue doing in order to reach your blog/brand goals?
Corner Curl Girl